Married Life: Meet The Gates

On November 12th, 2022 I married the love of my life! My college sweetheart, prayer partner, best friend, and favorite taco connoisseur. Life with my husband has been beautiful, and busy so far, and I’m looking forward to what’s to come.

This blog post will be different from my usual posts. Over the past couple months people have asked me a number of questions relating to marriage. Many want to know what it’s like to be married, while others want to know what my daily life now consists of. Due to these questions and this new stage of life I’ve entered into, I thought it would be fun to talk about current day marriage and although I’m still a newlywed, what it means to me to be a wife. So, let’s chat!

Is marriage dying?

While I don’t think marriage is completely dead, I do believe that marriage isn’t as common today as it once was. There are statistics that actually back this up. Over the past 30 or so years the percentage of adults ages 25 to 54 who are married has dropped from 67% in 1990 to 53%, and cohabiting has increased from 4% to 9%.

I think there are multiple factors that play into why the number of marriages have declined, so there’s no real way to pinpoint what the exact cause is. Every situation is different. And quite frankly, not everyone wants marriage for themself, which is also okay if that’s what you decide. There’s a lot I feel like I could say on this, but I’ll save that for another post. Instead, I want to talk more about why Peter and I chose to get married.

Why we chose marriage

Making the choice to get married was easy for us and was confirmed through a prophetic word during a church service in December 2020. Then in December 2021 Peter proposed, and as you know, I said yes! We got married because we love each other of course, but we also wanted to honor God.

We also understand that marriage isn’t for everyone. It’s a full-time job and it’s constant hard work.

It’s worth the work, but it requires selflessness, compassion, forgiveness, grace, and so much more. We’re still in our honeymoon stage, but we have parents who have both been married for over 25 years,. We’ve seen examples of the good and the bad, but above all we’ve seen love on full display. At the end of 2022 Peter and I were discussing and praying over our 2023 goals and Peter brought up a great point. He said he’s excited to see how we’re both going to stretch each-other and grow constantly, even when it’s uncomfortable. And that there’s nobody else he’d rather do this with. We’re a team. The best team!

Our 2023 plans as a married couple

Peter and I are both really excited to see what 2023 brings. We’re believing for growth, financial increase, and more travel opportunities, among other things!

Above all we want to take this first year of marriage to invest in our relationship and make memories. To us that looks like prioritizing date nights, finding a church home, doing our favorite hobbies together, traveling, and bonding over tacos (which we LOVE!). We want to enjoy each other as much as we can before we have kids! That’s not to say once kids come into the equation that we won’t have time for each other, but it’ll take more effort for sure!

I hope you enjoyed hearing my mini married life update. If there are other topics you’d like me to touch on leave a comment below.

Now, enjoy these beautiful pictures from our wedding!